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5 Ways to Experience Self-Love This Year

5 Ways to Experience Self-Love This YearIn the spirit of Valentine’s Day, I thought I would write about the one kind of love that seems to be forgotten this time of year: self-love.

Yes, the term self-love feels a bit cliche. We love to talk about the importance of self-love in the personal development world…but do any of us really practice it fully? What does self-love really mean anyway?

It’s easy to confuse self-love with self-care. I’m getting regular massages. I’m taking time to meditate. I’m going to bed earlier. These are all great ways you can love and care for yourself. But self-love goes deeper.

Self-love isn’t something you can check off your to-do list. It’s a relationship between YOU and YOU. And like all good relationships, it takes time, understanding, forgiveness and nurturing. No one is perfect at self-love, but everyone can benefit from it!

I couldn’t accurately put into words my perspective of self-love, so instead I found 5 other “self” words, that together encompass what I believe self-love is all about.

 

5 ways to experience self-love this year

 

Self-Acceptance

Self-love is about accepting yourself totally and completely. It’s about acknowledging that you are a multifaceted being, and remembering that you are always growing and evolving. Self-acceptance means accepting that you are already worthy and whole, right now, even with all your so-called imperfections. It doesn’t mean that you can’t continue working towards a better version of yourself. But, when you truly love yourself, you realize the transformation you seek is not in changing yourself, but instead in peeling back the layers to reveal more of your true, authentic self.

 

Self-Compassion

Along with self-acceptance, we also need to give ourselves a big dose of self-compassion. I always remind my clients that they would never repeat to a friend the things that they tell to themselves. You would never tell a friend that they’re a failure if they mess up, or that they deserved to be treated badly, or that they’ll never get what they want, right? So why would you say any of those things to yourself? Instead, choose to show yourself the same compassion you’d show a good friend.

 

Self-Advocacy

There’s no better person to stand up for your needs than you! You can’t expect anyone else to read your mind, which means it’s up to you to express what you want and need. It’s up to you to define your boundaries and let someone know if they’ve crossed them. It’s up to you to support your goals & dreams and make them a priority. And it’s up to you to speak up, step up and be a leader in your own life!

 

Self-Appreciation

We all love to be appreciated, right? When the people in your life aren’t appreciating your efforts, then it’s time to step in and appreciate yourself! You’ve got so many gifts to share with others, most of which you probably take for granted. You won’t end up with an inflated ego — most of us rarely acknowledge all of our good characteristics and actions. So give yourself a pat on the back once in a while!

 

Self-Care

Finally, I had to include self-care because part of loving yourself, is caring for yourself — body, mind & spirit. This includes ensuring that your personal needs are met and doing what you can to feel supported on all levels. I’ve previously shared 30 ways to nourish your body, mind & spirit if you need some ideas & inspiration!

 

Ultimately, self-love will look different for everyone, in the same way that each relationship in your life is different. Because this is a relationship you’ll have for the rest of your life, it’s worth exploring and experimenting to see what feels right for you. Your version of self-love will continue to evolve as you do!

I came across this quote recently from Goldie Hawn and I thought it summed up self-love perfectly. Truly, there is so much freedom is deciding to be exactly who you already are! Now that’s love!

Goldie Hawn Quote

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